“If I just had….. THEN I would be happy!”
It’s Christmas day and I’m certain that this thought motivated many people’s gift giving decisions this year.
They spent time listening to their family members, their friends, their significant others and did their best to fulfill the wishes of those people.
I hope for their sake (or yours) that they enjoy it because it won’t last long.
People don’t stop, they need to keep progressing.
If people stop progressing, if they stop growing, they die.
People who say they’d “just be happy if…” will never be happy, will never stay motivated and never be fulfilled.
Saying that you’d just be happy if you got something, achieved something, received something, implies that you stop as soon as you reach that goal.
This is counter productive to happiness and fulfillment.
Happiness is progress. Moving forward. Growth.
Stopping is stagnation, and ultimately death.
Let me ask you something, when you finally achieve something, do you stop? Or you immediately look to what you can accomplish next?
I’m betting you said you look to the future. You look for the next goal to achieve.
This is happiness whether you consciously realize it or not.
Have you ever talked to someone who has retired?
If you’ve ever been around someone who has wanted to retire for years, and then finally does, they’ll tell you it’s everything they ever wanted.
For a while.
After a certain amount of time, it’s different for everyone, they start to get the itch to do something.
You can only sip mimosas on the beach for so long before it gets boring.
Most people think boredom comes from consistency which is not true. Boredom comes from lack of progress.
If you don’t continue to have something to strive for, some reason to keep growing, you’ll begin to feel that sense of boredom and unhappiness.
If you’re looking to really make a difference in the quality of your life, find something to strive for, preferably something that is bigger than yourself.
Secondly, find a way to track your progress.
Why do people love phone games? They get to see their progress. They get to see themselves “level up.”
Finally, understand that you’ll have to find something new to strive for once you reach your current goal. If you understand this, you never have reason to be disappointed.
You’ll just set a new goal, a new challenge, to keep you moving forward.
You’ll never be happy if just get that “thing.”
You’ll be happy when you learn to love the process.
Entertain. Educate. Motivate.